Forgiveness- it’s a tricky one, isn’t it? I think it’s one of the reasons I’m drawn to this spanking thing; it’s practice in forgiveness. We can start with the little things- the things that he doesn’t really care about (more just excuses to spank than actual crimes), then we can move up to the things that start to irritate him perhaps a wee bit.
Then there are the BIG THINGS. Those that really make a difference but that we’ve found a way to manage, to communicate about and come to an understanding- a painful understanding though it may be. But with that pain comes forgiveness, and that makes it worthwhile.
For me, it’s the pain- and not necessarily the physical pain- of the experience that makes the forgiveness easier to understand and accept. A price has been paid. We can move on.
But forgiveness outside this kind of close relationship? That’s harder. Though I hope that our practice makes it easier in time. If we can remember the love and care we feel when forgiven by the one we love, if we can hold that feeling close and draw from it when it is most needed, we can extend this magic to others.