In my ongoing survey of BDSM non-fiction, Playing Well with Others has by far impressed me the most. Everything about the book- from the content to the typeface to the organisation - I found very satisfying. There are a few questions I like to ask when reading introductions to BDSM that try to appeal to … Continue reading Non-Fiction Book of the Month: Playing Well with Others
Originally written as an assignment for a geography class- an essay on “My Favourite Place in Ireland”. Teacher, for some reason, was not impressed. *** For me, the best part of Ireland, apart from the pubs, is the castles. It can be difficult to choose a favourite among the quiet isolation of Dunamaise, the imposing … Continue reading Chateau Corrupto
I’ve found that involvement in the local spanking community has been very beneficial. I am more confident, more relaxed, and, perhaps most important, have more opportunities to be creative. For example, when a teacher (and I use this term very loosely indeed) asks me to “Name the ten commandments,” and I see this as a … Continue reading Opportunities to Shine
I quit my vanilla writing group today. I had tried, honestly tried, to learn, to write, to develop, to debate, to fit in. It was not a good fit, and, worse, was sapping time and energy I’ve come to realise would be better spent here. After weeks of agonising over the decision, days of … Continue reading Quitting
I didn’t want the pint. I didn’t have time for the pint. But I had even less time for the worries that had plagued me since Sunday night. *** I have nothing against Harry, quite the opposite. Tedious at times, but he has a heart of gold. And he has a secret- or had … Continue reading Being Out
From the Sarah Saga Eighteen months had passed. The first few had been the worst, as the truth of his disappearance set in. The shock of it had kept Sarah awake long into the night, numbed, but unable to slip into the healing of unconsciousness. As closed as she tried to keep her emotions, … Continue reading Much to Learn: Epilogue
No stories today, but plenty on the way. Life has been wonderfully busy, and while I have loads of new experiences to write about, I haven't had the time to wrangle my thoughts into any sort of logical order just yet. A full week later, and I’m still blissfully happy from spending the most amazing … Continue reading No Stories Today
“It’s just that I don’t think in terms of expecting anything from anyone.” -Seregil of Rhiminee* (I got a few worried messages the last time I visited this subject. Everything is fine- I'll try to explain again.) Learning to trust is hard. Particularly for the little things The big things are easy- for all those … Continue reading Independence, Revisted
Thoughts prompted by a post from Scarlet I like symbols in general, though I hadn’t really thought of the symbolism of submission until prompted to do so by a 30 days of submission discussion exercise run by a former blogger. The timing was perfect. It was a period of Great Change, though at the time … Continue reading Claddagh
We had stopped for tea and cake in a cute little shop. Looking around at the dianty displays, it was difficult to believe that this used to be a shop of an entirely different sort- one that catered to people of our disposition. We were nearly through with the girly portion of the day, and … Continue reading Vulnerability
Acknowledging Imperfection 