30 Days of Submission: Day 8

Each day in September, I will be posting a question about submission, along with two responses- the first written five years ago and the second from today. I welcome all who wish to join in this exercise to post your own answers in the comments, adjusting the question if necessary to suit your own roles and sensibilities.

Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?


Yes. This is one of the things that is key for me.

Pain is a good teacher, at least for me. Aikido comes to mind, as does a certain friend. It’s a quick and efficient way to draw me back into line. I like efficiency.

I don’t know where this fascination with spanking comes from, as it isn’t something I have direct experience with. My reaction to the slightest reference is very powerful, and I know this is something that I want.

I’ve experienced bits and pieces- the scolding, some form of punishment, using pain for punishment, but never all put together or including spanking. Why I want this and how I’m so sure is a mystery to me.

I’m thinking it is strange that although I have a stronger aversion to spanking references in everyday life than sex references, I will happily read spanking blogs on my own, but avoid anything sexual. Why am I not comfortable with sexual content? Something to contemplate later. . .

I know that I want punishment within a loving relationship, but am still somewhat baffled as to why. Your eloquence reassures me that wanting this is can be a beautiful thing.


Yes, absolutely, still. The scenes with punitive overtones have been some of the most powerful for me, be they actual punishments, role play, or simply an atmosphere that brings me into that headspace for unspoken reasons.

I had thought at first that I was only interested in “proper” punishment, requiring a caring partner who knows me well, a harsh spanking, scolding, learning, change, strictness and love. However, I have been surprised at how only a few punishment-like elements can put me in that frame of mind. I’ve had great catharsis being punished for imagined or unspecified offenses. I’ve submitted readily to punishment from near-strangers in group role play scenes- an arrangement both more fun and more satisfying than I could have imagined. I’ve felt true sorrow, true regret, and have made changes to my behaviour following a self-spanking prescribed by a long-distance mentor.

To have the courage to point out my faults and to administer correction in such an invasive manner is, to me, a deep expression of love. To admit that I have failed and to truly accept the consequences specified by a dominant partner is the purest form of my submission.

2 thoughts on “30 Days of Submission: Day 8

  1. Spanking and corporal punishment in general is at the very core of my participation in this scene of ours.
    If we talk of someone submitting to me its submitting to a spanking or some other corporal punishment.

    If a consenting lady is misbehaving either in play or in real life I love instant retribution. Pulling that lady over my knee and administering a sound hand spanking is for me still one of my favourite spanking scenes.
    I suppose it has been since such scenes were seen by me as a young person in the old films and tv series.
    I have found that a number of spankees actually respect that reaction. I dont think I do it often enough if I’m honest.

    For more serious stuff I love the ritual that can be involved.
    Maybe scolding the lady involved if a real situation ( I struggle a little in a play scenario ) before telling her to bend over or the more powerful ” assume the position young lady”.
    The lowering of the panties is a final ritual showing her this is a serious affair. Then begins the punishment with either strap or cane.

    It is a very powerful image in my mind from when I first read about such stuff and if its with the right headspace the most powerful and exciting scene possible with my spanking tendancies.

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