Why did “humiliation” become a bad word? “Humility” has connotations of virtue, whereas as “humiliation” is more like “degrading” (I suppose “degradation” would be the more accurate word to compare it to grammatically. However, as a scientist, that one has chemical connotations that I can’t get over, so you’ll need to excuse the grammar today). … Continue reading Humiliation
Category: Thoughts on Submission
The Blind Leading the Sighted
It takes a lot for a sight to qualify as strange on the streets of New York City. That’s why the blind man being lead by the elbow didn’t even register as remarkable. The fact that the man doing the leading was finding his way with a white cane, however, gave me pause and a … Continue reading The Blind Leading the Sighted
Kissing
I hate it. I think I just never got beyond the five-year-old “boys are icky” phase in this particular area. I realise I’m supposed to like this. It’s supposed to be a sign of intimacy, a physical manifestation of love. But it makes me cringe a little. Even with Sir. Except there’s another layer with … Continue reading Kissing
Independence, Revisted
“It’s just that I don’t think in terms of expecting anything from anyone.” -Seregil of Rhiminee* (I got a few worried messages the last time I visited this subject. Everything is fine- I'll try to explain again.) Learning to trust is hard. Particularly for the little things The big things are easy- for all those … Continue reading Independence, Revisted
The View from There
Back when I first started this whole blogging thing, I came out to a vanilla friend. I was about to get together with a man I met online and needed someone to act as a safety call. It seemed a good idea to clue her in a bit, though this was not a decision undertaken … Continue reading The View from There
A Quiet Kind of Fire
A while back a question was posed to Dom With Pen on whether a submissive must have "fire in her eyes." While that wilfulness definitely has it's appeal, I'd like to say that it is far from a requirement in all cases. Submission does not always need to be a battle. There are dominants who … Continue reading A Quiet Kind of Fire
The Evils of Pornography
Note: to some, the material to which I refer would be better described as “erotic literature.” However, as the line between the two is hazy at best, “pornography” is the term of choice for this particular rant as its connotation better suits my self-declared strop of a mood. Pornography can be a wonderful thing. Enjoyed … Continue reading The Evils of Pornography
(Forcefully) Guided Submission
I’ve read a great deal about how some strong women want to be forced to submit to the one they love. It is a part of their nature, but it does not come naturally until their partner brings it out. These are fascinating and lovely people, and the dynamic these couples have is magical. But … Continue reading (Forcefully) Guided Submission
Forgiveness
Forgiveness- it's a tricky one, isn't it? I think it's one of the reasons I'm drawn to this spanking thing; it's practice in forgiveness. We can start with the little things- the things that he doesn't really care about (more just excuses to spank than actual crimes), then we can move up to the things … Continue reading Forgiveness
In Defence of Lines
The practice of writing lines seems to get a rather bad break, all things considered. It is not time wasted, in the same way that prayer or meditation is not time wasted. It is an act of discipline and devotion. It is practice of a skill I must use daily, and a skill that, judging … Continue reading In Defence of Lines
Acknowledging Imperfection 