I have been alone for a long time. Not in the unloved sense, but physically very alone. Business travel tends to have that side effect. And I found, for better or worse, that this alone-ness has changed the way I act. I change my own light bulbs, kill my own bugs. When faced with a … Continue reading Independence
Category: Thoughts on Submission
Claddagh
Thoughts prompted by a post from Scarlet I like symbols in general, though I hadn’t really thought of the symbolism of submission until prompted to do so by a 30 days of submission discussion exercise run by a former blogger. The timing was perfect. It was a period of Great Change, though at the time … Continue reading Claddagh
Vulnerability
We had stopped for tea and cake in a cute little shop. Looking around at the dianty displays, it was difficult to believe that this used to be a shop of an entirely different sort- one that catered to people of our disposition. We were nearly through with the girly portion of the day, and … Continue reading Vulnerability
Crossing the Line
I was very nervous when I started writing- and still am. With no actual experience to draw upon, everything I write is purely theoretical. I have read, thought, and discussed. There are many good and patient people in this community, and to them I will be forever grateful. It is like being a legal alien- … Continue reading Crossing the Line
This Game We Play
I once made the mistake(?) of referring to spanking as a game when discussing the matter with friends for whom it is an integral part of their relationship. I'd hit a nerve, that was clear, and let the subject drop. While I could see her point entirely, I'm not so sure my position has changed. … Continue reading This Game We Play
Saying it
Why is this so hard? I know it's not just me- I've read plenty of stories (some fiction, some I suspect with more than a hint of reality) of others having similar issues, or where saying it- more specifically, asking for it- is a point of tension in the process. Why is it that I … Continue reading Saying it
Who Knows?
There was a spot on television that caught my attention. She was getting ready to go out as her partner waited. As she was about to leave, he blocked her way, physically putting himself between her and the door, and reminded her to behave while she was away. His voice was low, with a hint … Continue reading Who Knows?
The Root
What is this thing that we talk about here? Is this just some passing obsession, something I'll get over in a few years and move on to something else? Or is it just a garnish- a bit of color and spice to round out a life or relationship that could get on just as easily … Continue reading The Root
Coming Out
Alright, I'll admit it. I'm a pencil lover. I know you're shocked, it's not at all what you would expect based on how I conduct myself in public. I think, though, that you'd be surprised just how many intelligent, independent women like to use pencils behind closed doors. Call me old-fashioned, and I'd agree more … Continue reading Coming Out
The Spanking Superpower Part 2: Mentoring
After the discovery comes the unveiling, the training, the growing into the type of person one is to become. One may benefit from guidance of another who is more experienced, who has gone through this before and can relate and teach. Someone to help one come to terms with who they are, what that means, … Continue reading The Spanking Superpower Part 2: Mentoring
Acknowledging Imperfection 