Thoughts inspired by Lea’s post a while back. I’ve never had much trouble with labels in terms of kink. I’m female and heterosexual, which I realise is on the simple, predictable end of the spectrum. I also identify as a submissive, and feel that word alone pretty much sums up my perspective on that … Continue reading Simply Submissive
Category: Thoughts on Submission
The Need- Level 2
With thanks to Sue Mary for the comment on last week's post that helped me unravel this a bit more: "But the question is do you really wish to be held to that higher standard to monitor everything you do so carefully?" I had talked about this last week, though from a combination of ignorance … Continue reading The Need- Level 2
The Need
Sometimes I feel like I need a spanking. Well, ok, quite a lot more than sometimes, but there are days when the need burns stronger. Not just for a simple bum-beating, that holds little attraction. It is a need for punishment, a need to be disciplined. A need to feel very firmly told what’s what … Continue reading The Need
Hiding in Plain Sight
I made my first tacky Christmas jumper this year, having finally given into the local tradition (and looking for an excuse to buy a glue gun). I was quite proud of it- bells and baubles and lights and everything. I also made it from what had been my "school uniform" jumper, purchased specifically for our … Continue reading Hiding in Plain Sight
Non-Traditional Halloween
I spent my day awaiting and then carrying out a reminder/punishment assigned by my disciplinarian. It occurs to me that this is a very appropriate thing to do on this particular holiday. It's a bit scary, but all in good fun (and perhaps tapping into a deeper part of the human condition than one might guess … Continue reading Non-Traditional Halloween
Vanilla-Clueless
Kink-aware is all good and well, though, as with all things, balance is critical. I think I may have missed the memo on how vanilla people meet partners. I’ve noticed a pattern recently where I think we’re just having a drink and a chat, but suddenly someone tries to throw tongues into the mix or … Continue reading Vanilla-Clueless
Limits
For the rest of us, the process is considerably more chaotic, and sometimes considerably unenjoyable. “Limit” sounds like such a simple word- something that one knows one won’t enjoy, and therefore won’t do. Once such obstacles identified and labelled as such, things run smoothly as traffic finds its way around them. It’s the days where … Continue reading Limits
Long-Distance Discipline – Update
A while back, I indicated that I was about to embark on an experiment with long-distance discipline. I have to say that I have been pleasantly surprised (and, at times, pleasantly sore) so far. As I’d seen before, any sort of regular contact with like-minded people is rewarding in itself in most cases. This is … Continue reading Long-Distance Discipline – Update
Deep Philosophical Question
A girl with a certain fondness of both rules and spankings finds herself in an unusual predicament. How does one satisfy both desires while maintaining personal integrity? And how is such a girl to have fun when busy pondering such fundamental conundrums? I guess she'll just have to be creative. . . and that can … Continue reading Deep Philosophical Question
Long-Distance Discipline
Long-distance relationships rarely sound like a good idea. However, when the alternative involves searching, waiting, and a fair bit of loneliness, are they worth considering? On the vanilla friendship side of things, I have plenty of experience with long-distance relationships. I have long-distance friendships with my parents, my sister, friends from school, and former co-workers. … Continue reading Long-Distance Discipline
Acknowledging Imperfection 